Unf@&kwithable

We recently noticed this term in a meme posted by a friend. While it gave us a good chuckle, the coined word is also an excellent description as Awakened Life.

It essentially comes down to not being judgeable, not being susceptible to the opinions/stories of society. If we believe a judgment, the thinking and beliefs of others, we can be messed with. How can we avoid being subject to the whims of judgment?

This can seem to occur in either of two ways: We can be so arrogant as to accept no judgment, or we can be one with what Is, in which case, judgment has no place to land. Moving in the world as Awake Awareness, there is no one who holds a position that needs to be defended. There is no stake in an individual or global story. There is only a moment to moment unfolding and experiencing of what Is.

Extreme arrogance is a state of separateness and boundaries. It comes prepackaged with a judgment of superiority. Anytime we make a judgment, there is a “someone” making that judgment and that “someone” is also judgeable. In practice, arrogance actually makes us more fragile and subject to judgments, reactive to (rather than active in) the world around us.

Jesus noted (Matthew 7:2), “For in the way you judge, you will be judged, and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.”

Buddha cautioned, “Whoever judges others, digs a pit for themselves.”

As long as we are in a position to be judging, we will be in a position to be judged and be affected by those judgments.

If “unf@&kwithable” is truly our goal, we must be one with what Is. As Isness, we are neither judging nor subject to judgments. Our lived experience is not yo-yoing with the tides of humanity.

Awakening seems to be a yes/no proposition, yet in the experience for many, it also carries a sense of progression. There often seems to be a progressive reduction as a “someone.” As such, we may seem to become progressively less “f@&kwithable” as our belief in the identity as a“someone” fades.

At a recent retreat, we came face to face with the inescapable truth that if we slip into making a judgment, we become a “someone” who can be slapped back with a judgment. Isness is an excellent teacher – an iron hand in a velvet glove. When the “goal” is living as Truth, we could ask for no better teacher than Isness.

Whether the transition to being “unf@&kwithable” is instant or gradual, the apparent path is dropping the belief in identification as an individual and recognizing the present Wholeness moving through life as our unique expressions.

If we are looking to become “unf@&kwithable,” as St. Francis stated, “What you are looking for is what is looking.”

Blessings, Steve and Bec